This means having a permanent place, in a cemetery or mausoleum that can be visited regularly by family and friends. It is an essential part of the time following a death. It becomes a focal point of memorialization, and gives everyone a special place to go to remember your loved one, or to commemorate important occasions. A consistent place for healing allows for family and friends to find comfort long after the services are over.
In today’s fast paced society, people aren't given enough time to grieve their losses. The pressures of returning to work and the emotional need to “stay busy”, often bring the bereaved back into the “real” world far too soon.
Some families are choosing to scatter their loved one’s cremated remains in a favorite place like the ocean or a cherished vacation spot. It may seem fitting at the time, but it means that you do not have a consistent place to connect with the memories of the person you loved so dearly.
Having such permanent place in a cemetery that can be visited regularly by family and friends can help to make a birthday or anniversary less painful. It becomes a way of connecting to your family's past. Visiting the resting place of grandparents or great-grandparents provides children a connection to their ancestral history. It is a connection to the past, and having a dedicated place to spend time after a loss, a place where you can find comfort, will make all the difference to those left behind.